What Exactly Is ASD? Since most men don’t understand the concept of ASD, I thought it would be best to dedicate an entire blog post to it. To make things super clean, especially since ASD is a word from the pickup industry. ASD stands for Anti-Slut Defense. It is not something I made up, it’s a term from the pickup artist world, where, due to the nature of people and society, women were expected to behave a certain way.

Despite its odd name, it’s a very real thing, and you, as a man, need to know how to manage it. It has a huge influence on your success rate with women, so make sure to pay attention to what ASD is and how you, as a man, can manage ASD from your side.

What exactly is ASD?

ASD is basically a condition created by societal conditioning for women where they will attempt to avoid sex or anything sexual in nature, even if they want it badly, so as to not look or feel like a “slut” or not like “a lady” by society standards of how women should behave. Virginity and chastity were valued by the catholic church as well as other religions all over the world.

ASD, also known as Anti-Slut Defense, is a term used in dating and pickup communities to describe a psychological or social barrier that some women may exhibit when they are attracted to a man but feel conflicted about expressing or acting on that desire due to fear of being judged or labeled as “slutty.”

ASD is a woman’s way of protecting their reputation from the judgmental eyes of society so that they are not labeled as “loose women”. Much of this problem is created by men and other women. Due to the way women are judged and perceived in society, ASD is that much stronger.

Examples of these are: Having sex on first dates, one-night stands, having sex with guys in open relationships, etc.

A social world where double standards about sexuality are common:

• Men are often praised for sexual activity (“player” = high status).
• Women are often judged negatively for the same behavior (“slut” = low status).

Because of this, a woman might:

• Avoid overt displays of sexual interest.
• Reject or slow down sexual advances despite being interested.
• Require more comfort, trust, and validation before escalating.

This isn’t because she doesn’t like the man — it’s often because she does, and she doesn’t want to feel regret, shame, or judgment afterward, from him or others.

Why does ASD cause women a lot of problems?

ASD is the cause of major confusion, frustration, and psychological dysfunction in women because even though women strongly want to do something (which is having sex with you) and explore their sexual desires, kinks, and fantasies. They are told that it’s wrong for them to do so by societal standards by their parents, society, and any woman who does that is shamed.

ASD often confuses women, and even very intelligent ones to do irrational behavior and rationalizing that doesn’t make logical sense to a man.

ASD is a direct result of societal programming in women, which starts in early childhood and keeps growing as they age. For example, a 40-year-old woman will have much more ASD than an 18-year-old girl.

ASD makes it harder for you men to have sex with women you like. That is why you need to know about it and make sure to make a woman comfortable before being physical with her. The story she tells herself about being with you should not make her feel bad about herself. If you trigger her ASD, she will not be sexual with you, no matter how attractive she finds you to be.

The three main sources of ASD are:

1. Women who are trying to remove the competition. This includes other women who shame women for being sexual or exploring sexual desires.

2. Traditional and religious institutions that hold outdated social views that force women to behave in a certain way they consider as the right way.

3. Incels and Red pill Men who have no dating experience or have had bad dating experiences with women. These men hate women cause they cannot date how they want. So they say things like all women are sluts etc etc. These men quite literally think women are the source of all their problems and thus hate women in general.

Because of these three groups, when that super cute girl you are on a date with wants to go home with you. She can’t cause in her mind if she does go home with you and has sex with you, she will be called “a loose woman” by society or by people. This is why even if she absolutely loves you and wants to be with you, she will say no to you, especially on the first and second date.

How to deal with ASD

As I said before, you cannot cure ASD or make it disappear completely. But there are some things you can do to mitigate it. Sometimes it’s more about her than you, but you can do some things to lessen its effect on you and make it easy for her to get in bed with you.

Earn her trust and make her comfortable.

Don’t be a needy horny guy. Be sexual, not horny. Big difference between the two. The frame is important. Women will be sexual with you when they feel that they can trust you and are comfortable with you. If they feel you are judging them or saying things that make them feel judged or insecure, then it’s game over. It’s your job to make them trust you and make them comfortable enough to bring out their sexual side.

Be a man they can be comfortably sexual with. Don’t be the guy who shames her for sexuality and craziness.

Don’t spike her ASD

Guys have a huge issue with this, and they can’t wait to get in bed. I know you want to get to sex fast. But being too aggressive will just kill your chances with women.

Control Yourself. Don’t blurt out super sexual stuff on the first date.
Example:

Good: Talking about sex casually in a fun way is good, like for example, what she likes in bed or her fantasies is good.
Bad: Telling her how you wonder how her bo*bs or pu*ssy will taste like during a first date is very bad. Use common sense, please.

How you make her feel about herself and her sexuality is what will determine how quickly she becomes sexual with you.

Practice making women comfortable with you

Dating is a numbers game for guys, and rightfully so. This should be obvious by now if you have been reading the blogs on this site. If you are regularly meeting new women, then you won’t have a problem even if you meet a few women who are not ready to sleep with you.

If you are needy and desperate, it’s going to show, and it’s going to make women uncomfortable. Spike their ASD. Avoid falling into the provider frame and stick to the lover frame.

Date as young as possible if you want women with low ASD

The younger the girl is, the less ASD she has. Girls under the age of 30 are more open-minded and a lot more willing to be sexual vs someone who is 40 or above. You get the idea. Older women will tend to make you wait and go through all sorts of hoops and expensive dates in order for you to have anything physical with them. Younger women won’t do that to you as much. Cultural and religious background also matters, so make sure to account for that as well.

That’s all, folks. Thats how you deal with ASD and make women more comfortable being with you. I hope it helped, and if you want more help, feel free to book a call with Kosmo and his team.