Finding your dream girl isn’t about luck. It’s not about having a perfect pickup line or stumbling into the right bar at the right time. It’s about self-awareness and knowing what you want in your ideal girl. If you’re serious about finding the girl you want to partner up with, not just physically, but emotionally and intellectually, this guide is for you.
STEP 1: Define What “Dream Girl” Means for You
Let’s start with a truth:
You cannot find something you don’t know you need.
Do you know what you’re actually looking for in your dream? Most guys don’t. Their dream girl is just hot. That’s it. Her personality, values none of the other things are defined. And when you, as a guy, date or marry the first hot girl who sleeps with you. You end up with breakups and divorce.
If you wander into dating blind, hoping fate or sheer luck brings the perfect girl, you are headed for trouble. That’s not how dating works.
Grab a Pen and Paper. Answer This:
- What kind of physical appearance attracts you? Blonde, brunette, tall, curvy, petite?
- What kind of personality lights you up? Playful, serious, adventurous, calm, introverted, extroverted, nerdy?
- What values are non-negotiable? Family-focused? Ambitious? Spiritual, health-focused, career-focused?
- What are your turn-offs? Smoking? Partying every weekend? Clinginess? Bad past?
Know your type.
Once you do, the whole world becomes easier to navigate because you can filter out what doesn’t serve your needs. There is a lot of clutter in the world. And if you do not sort it out. It will only hamper your progress in dating and relationships.
STEP 2: Work on Yourself First
If you want a high-quality woman—beautiful, intelligent, loving—you better become the man worthy of her.
- Get in shape. Not just for looks, but for energy and confidence.
- Develop skills. Leadership, social skills, charm, humor, social awareness, and ambition.
- Build a life that excites you, whether you’re single or not.
- Be friends with lots of girls and create social circles with high-value women
You don’t just chase your dream girl.
You attract her towards you by becoming a man worthy of attracting the type of women you need.
STEP 3: Adopt an Abundance Mindset
Most guys ruin interactions before they start because they place women on pedestals. She’s so hot, she’s so special.
No, she is not. There are 4 billion women on the planet. Even if you let’s say you only like 1 out of 100 girls. Thats still 4 million girls you like. How is she special, then?
Your mindset is key when attracting women. If you feel needy and desperate because she is your only shot at a relationship. Of course, you will creep her out.
Instead:
- Treat her just like a normal lady. Be yourself, show her how fun and interesting your life is without showing off.
- Don’t over-invest early. You’re qualifying her just as much as she’s qualifying you.
- Don’t be afraid to walk away. True abundance means you believe that if it’s not her, there’s another one coming soon. (Which is true, I mean, in your city alone, you could find over 100k women you like within a 20-mile radius of where you live if you like in a big city)
STEP 4: Master the Art of the Approach
Fear kills potential and opportunities. If you do not approach and interact with women. How will you ever meet the girl of your dreams? She is not going to come into your room and sit on your lap now, is she?
To defeat approach anxiety:
- Build a good friend circle
- Don’t think. Move. If you wait too long, you won’t do it. Just go and approach women
- Commit to daily action. Make sure to approach at least a few women daily.
Remember: Every rep counts. You’re building social muscle.
STEP 5: Invest in A Good Dating Coach
Let’s be honest. This is complex stuff. You’re rewiring your identity, building social skills, and facing rejection. Dating Coaching helps. You can spend years of your life trying to get good with girls.
A dating coach can significantly shorten the time needed to get good with women. Why waste 10 years when you can become a master in 1 year with the help of a dating coach?
Find mentors. Join communities. Book calls. Watch demos.
Even Kobe had Phil Jackson as a coach.
Taking Action:
And here’s the key, my friend: you gotta take action, my friend. You can’t just sit on your ass and expect women to come flocking to you like moths to a flame. Hit the damn gym, revamp your wardrobe, and for the love of all that’s holy, learn how to groom yourself. It’s not rocket science, guys.
And go out and approach women. If you’re serious about leveling up your dating game, it’s time to take action. Invest in yourself. Looks do matter. So does your job, your choice of friends, your fashion sense, your hobbies, talents, and lifestyle. It all adds up to make you a complete package.
By taking action, meeting new women, learning to build social circles, having positive energy, and being the best you can be. You can easily have unlimited options in terms of dating and women. Then you can finally have the girl of your dreams.
Now, get off your ass and start making those changes. If you need help, feel free to book a call with Kosmo and his coaches.