Ever had a woman suddenly say something like:
“Is that what you’re wearing tonight?”
“My ex used to spoil me more.”
“You’re kinda cocky, aren’t you?”
And you’re left blinking like, “Wait… what the hell just happened?”
You were vibing, flirting, maybe even planning the next spot to grab drinks. And suddenly she says this.
Welcome to the world of shit tests. And no, they’re not some evil trick women use to torment men. They’re something much more primal—and, believe it or not, helpful.
What Is a Shit Test, Anyway?
A “shit test” (yeah, crude name, but stay with me) is girls way of testing men’s character who they find attractive. A way for a woman to unconsciously check your confidence.
She’s testing you.
How you respond
How do you handle being challenged?
And whether or not you’re the real deal, or just putting on a show.
Why Women Test You: The Real Psychology Behind It
Here’s what most guys don’t get: it’s not personal.
She’s not trying to “win” or push you away. These tests come from a deep, often subconscious place of emotional self-protection.
Women test because they want to feel safe.
Safe to be vulnerable. Safe to let go. Safe to trust.
And she’s not going to ask, “Hey, are you emotionally stable and secure in who you are?” (Every guy will say yes even if it’s a no. So women consciously or subconiusly will test you)
Nope. Instead, she’ll say:
“You probably say that to all the girls.”
And she’ll watch how you respond.
Do you laugh it off? Get flustered? Defend yourself?
That moment tells her everything.
But Why Not Just Ask Directly?
Because testing is emotional. It’s subconscious. It’s instinct.
Just like you might size up another guy based on how he walks into a room, women test men based on how they handle emotional conflict and shit tests.
It’s not about logic. It’s about feeling.
She wants to feel your emotional stability and confidence. She wants to know you are real
When she pokes you, do you stand strong and calm?
That’s what she’s really looking for.
How to Handle Shit Tests
Here’s what not to do:
- Don’t get defensive.
- Don’t explain yourself like you’re in a courtroom.
- Don’t turn into a try-hard.
- And don’t fire back with bitterness.
Instead, here’s the actual playbook:
1. Keep Your Cool
Breathe. Smile. Stay chill. The moment you react emotionally, you’ve already lost.
2. Use Humor
Not to dodge. But to disarm.
Her: “Are you always this full of yourself?”
You: “Only on Thursdays. You caught me on my best day.”
Playful > Defensive. Every time. This is the best way to deal with shit tests.
3. Stand Your Ground
If she crosses a line that should not be crossed? Call it out.
“I’m all for teasing, but that came off kinda sharp. Let’s not go there.”
4. Know When to Walk
Now there is a difference between shit tests and being a bitch. If she is just insulting you. Don’t stay and take it. Ghost her and talk to other women. Some women might genuinely say some hurtful things. You stay calm and ignore her. Take away the attention. Simple as that.
Let’s be real: not all “testing” is healthy.
If she constantly belittles you, mocks your passions, or uses passive-aggression as a communication style, that’s not a test—that’s toxicity.
A good woman tests your strength.
A toxic one tests your breaking point.
Learn the difference. Your peace is worth it.
Why Passing Tests Actually Builds Attraction
Every time you handle a shit test with calm confidence, a woman feels safer with you. Not just physically, but emotionally. That’s the foundation of genuine attraction.
It’s about showing her:
“I’m the same confident guy when things are easy and when things get messy.”
And that, my friend, is rare for women.
The best way to pass any shit test?
Be fun, humorous, and unapologetically you.
When a woman sees that?
You don’t just pass the test.
You change the game.
So the next time she throws you a curveball, don’t panic. Smile. Breathe. Handle it.
And remember: she’s not trying to hurt you. She’s trying to test you to see if you are worth it. And remember, if you need help, feel free to book a call with Kosmo and his coaches.